What happens in a session
As all therapists and healers are different, I believe its important to know a bit about how I work, so you can make an informed choice.
My sessions are clients led. I take time to ask about what's going on for a client, take concise notes, acknowledge medical/emotional history, whats led them to seek support, and what they want to get out of it. This part of the session is as much part of the work as the time spent on the table. I will be tracking energy as clients talk about experiences, physical and emotional issues, supporting potential integrations, and getting the bigger picture so when its time to move to the table, we have already built up some relationship to whats in the space.
Often when a client comes for a number of sessions they may notice life themes or particular physical sensations or emotion becoming more activated, or begin to clarify, before a session. This can be related to the layers of healing in the body/soul, that are ready to unravel, during the work on the couch. Choosing to take notice of these details can really help with understanding, integration, and ownership of the healing process.
When we get to work on the couch, I give deeper attention to listening to the layers of rythyms, activated symptoms, dormant energy, and deeper resourcing intelligence, naturally present in the body and energyfield. This part of the session as generally a mixture of quiet, tracking the body, and communicating. I may ask questions about what I am sensing in a clients system, body, emotions, I may invite the client to participate in engaging in something like breathing into a particular part of the body, or witnessing a particular emotion, if it is conscious. Many of my clients find this approach empowering, as they get to participate in their healing, and gain a deeper understanding of their process.
I also work with clients in movement, sessions are not limited to work on the couch. If a birth pattern comes up, for example, I may invite an exploration and opportunity to move on the floor with the birth dynamics and repattern what has been held in the body. This work allows whole systems to reorganise in the psyche/emotions and body, with a client having a really embodied understanding of how their birth influenced them, and new pathways they have created. Also exploring movement can really highlight issues that are held in the masculine and feminine aspects of our being, for example, as the body reveals where life is more fluid and where it is more held, or where these aspects may be conflicting with eachother. Some clients have trauma associated with a medical situation, or other reason why getting on the couch may be activating. I always make sure that a client is ready before getting on the table, that they are empowered in their decision. Session work can be done standing, sitting on the chair, however is best, and any issues with a loss of power are important to recognise. I am committed to my clients well being at all times. The work on the couch is not invasive, touch is gentle, with clothes on, permission is always negotiated, sometimes when working in the energy field around the body, I work without direct touch.
Sessions can also bring to light ancestral trauma, and unresolved repeating patterns held in our cellular memory. Our family history can become apparent as the deep listening to a clients system provides the safety for understanding and resolution for sometimes ancient woundings, often hiding behind more current situations and stuck energy.
Forgiveness often plays a big part in healing. Self empathy, and empathy for others, is often naturally generated as a client gains deeper insights about the true nature of their dis-ease. These openings help to reveal, inherently, the bigger picture, ultimately of our own innocence, what we have chosen to work with in our lives, and compassion for those around us.
I also work with the shamanic practice of soul retrieval, and pay attention to other aspects of the soul, for example, archetypes, and power animals. Sometimes a client's intelligent guiding system, will prioritise an experience for healing, that is deeply influencing their present life, but is rooted in another period of their soul's existence.
SESSIONS WITH BABIES>>>
Anyone bringing their baby, sessions begin with a gentle exploration of the whole field, what is at the heart of you, as a family and your experience together (or separately), during pregnancy, conception etc, how is baby, you, now? If your baby upto 40 days old, I tend to use touch with both of you together, as this is the time it takes for a baby's electromagnetic field to develop and its good to keep you and your baby close, working with baby.
Sessions with babies are very much led by the enquiry, what will help the relational field between mum/parents and baby to be heart centered? If there is stress, shock, unresolved emotions etc, then it will effect this delicate balance, so needed for good enough bonding, breastfeeding, digestive issues, and sleep balance. I support babies and children with health issues, alongside their doctor.
Babies have a way of letting us know what is going on for them. Karlton Terry, from the US, pioneered the work of understanding baby body language, which, after extensive travelling, he says he has found is universal, regardless of race or origin. Babies can sense when someone has been trained to pick up on this language and can become more expressive, acting out their stories with an intention to resolve an issue. They are often extremely aware of whats happening 'in the field'. I studied perinatal and pediatric craniosacral therapy with Matthew Appleton, leading perinatal craniosacral therapist in the uk, and international teacher, who has studied with Karlton Terry for many years. Babies respond by communicating whats going on for them, with subtle movements. For example, repeatedly touching their navel, will be a sign that there was some stress during the pregnancy, that was felt through the umbilical cord. I am very much led by the baby in these sessions, and also taking care to make sure parents are on board and supported with whatever is being addressed.
Sometimes babies need to tell their story, and no amount of feeding, rocking, nappy changing, the list goes on, can placate them until they have really been heard. We often as parents, miss the subtle difference between a needs cry and a memory cry, and a communication from baby can easily be misread, leaving a baby with unresolved feelings. There may have been a time during pregnancy, or birth where they were aware of a stressful situation around them, which literally imprints on the fluids in the womb, or with toxins released into the bloodstream, through the umbilical cord, during an emotional day for Mum. A difficult moment or passage during birth, unseen or acknowledged by others, as baby's journey is as much his or her own, as the birth is also mum's experience, can create strong emotion that asks to be deeply met. If a parent was not this deeply met in their own experience as a baby, they dont have the modelling, it is often difficult to meet baby in this place, crying may trigger the parents own pain . Coming for a session/s can help identify this and give your baby an important opportunity to release whatever they are holding onto, and to support parents to have more confidence with what their baby is expressing, and also to not blame themselves when things are hard. Sometimes this can involve a baby initiating their own physical release, by moving through positions that he or she encountered during the birth process, where they might have got stuck, or felt afraid. A baby that is often arching their back, for example, is often trying to complete a movement where things got stuck in the birth.
Everyone attending a baby's session will be involved to some extent, there are no bystanders. Babies often feel quite empowered after telling a story, and can become more lively. Sometimes Mums might come on their own with baby, if they feel they would benefit from time, one to one with me, to work with deep issues around the birth or other area of parenting/ pregnancy. For example, some women benefit from more contained support reconnecting with their own intimate body, if there has been use of forceps or tearing, a chance to release painful emotions and holding of fear in the body in a gentle feminine space. There is no expectation for both parents to come with baby, and sometimes, its really important for dad to be there too, maybe he attended the birth as has unresolved feeling/trauma around that, or there is a sense that there is something happening at home that is very much a whole family picture. I am happy to support families in whatever way that feels right.
If it becomes apparent that your baby is having symptoms because he or she is picking up on stress in their environment, its quite possible that I could suggest working with you during the session. This kind of situation may be caused by a difficult birth, and you may benefit from some support to help integrate your experience and release any shock or trauma, in order to be able to really settle with baby. If you agree, then that will help your baby immensely! I am tracking the relational field of the family, while we work. Babies feel everything. Sometimes baby will present a digestive issue when Mum or Dad is worrying about something. Having a new baby is a big change, and can also bring up unconscious memories from our own childhood. With gentle support, these unsettled feelings can be acknowledged which will give the whole family more space and ease in parenting too.
Sometimes I find it is necessary for me to ask parents to just be with baby, during a part of the session, while I work in silence with ancestral issues caught up in the field. When a baby arrives, even during pregnancy, it is a time when ancestral trauma can surface, and become a template for the new family field. This is because any historical story that is unresolved is like a lightening bolt looking for somewhere to land, it wants to be healed. By acknowledging what was unmet, these stories that can otherwise cause great difficulty in early parenting, can be released. One example could be where a mother finds it difficult to bond with her baby, there may have been a stillbirth, further back in the family, even many many generations ago. If there are unresolved energies at play, this kind of trauma can be resolved gently and with great respect to the ancestors, creating space for mother and baby to be with eachother. In this example, session work before a birth may also allow an easier letting go during labour, as families often unconsciously hold onto fear of childbirth when there has been a loss. This is just one example, there are many.
Please dont hesitate to contact me during your pregnancy, and for your baby, anyone in your family, at this precious time.